Top 5 Qualities that one person should possess when entering a relationship

A relationship is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as a romantic or intimate relationship, or a parent-child relationship. Relationships are normally a very deep affection for someone, and I’m talking about serious relationships, relationships that usually last for about a couple of years and yet everyday, you’re still in love with that someone and you wish both of you won’t change. I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years, though for some this is just a short span of time, I can say that I have been in a relationship with the best man I’ve ever known. Anyhow, let me share some of my tips for a long lasting relationship.

• Understand. The first quality, this word has a broad meaning, to understand means to be thoroughly familiar with the character and propensities of one person. Being understanding is not so hard to do, some relationships has this problem always. Lack of understanding makes both of you become possessive with each other.

• Respect your partner. To respect your partner means you know how to honor,  esteem, high regard, considerate and give her/him you best attention. You partner should always feel that he/she is being respected, he or she should feel that you honor his/her decision whatever that may be, to support him/her and not being the superior in your relationship is already a respect with your partner.

• Listen to your partner. To listen is to pay attention, when your partner has to say something make sure to listen to him/her. I believe this is the most important thing that you should have as a person, if you know how to listen, you will understand what your partner has to say and if you understand everything else will fall so smooth in your relationship. As the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” said “Listening creates healing.” If you have done something wrong with your partner, listen to what he/she wanted to say to keep your relationship intact and okay always.

• Forgive. We are only human and we make mistakes, and sometimes making this mistakes irritably hurts the another. Sometimes, you do not notice it but you accidentally or unintentionally hurt your partner. I’m a very sensitive kind of person and what I really want to always have is the attention and understanding from my partner, I admit I have the highest pride ever . Nevertheless, I have learned that if you truly love someone you have to understand his point as well. We always think that if we hate that someone, we should always be the “right”person in the issue, but that’s a wrong kind of thinking. “Forgiveness is the key. If someone hurts then one needn’t hurt back. As Gandhi said, An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.” Let’s live to this thinking not just for the sake of our relationship but let’s also apply this to everything.

• Loyalty. Being loyal is having the feeling or attitude of devoted attachment and affection. This is very important, though I have enumerated a lot of vital words here. This is the most common of all of those vital words that I have said, to stick with that someone you think you have shared half of your life is a great feeling. Come to think of it, we cannot stop everybody if they have something to say about you and your partner, some people are just really insecure that’s why they keep on commenting on your move as a couple. Loyalty is a big word, it is not just a simple word because when you say that you are “Loyal” you have to keep it, and you have to show it. It is a very nice feeling if you know that the person that you love doesn’t want to find another person as great  as you are. It is very nice to know that, at the end of the day, you will sleep at night saying “Good Night and I love you” to a person and when you wake up the next morning, he/she is the same person that you’ll going to give your “Good Morning and I love you.”

Staying in love is a big challenge. To keep your relationship within a span of how many years with one person only keeps you very inspired. We’re not a perfect person and we have to admit that sometimes one of this quality is missing on our relationship. Nevertheless, your duty as a partner is to fill the missing pieces that your partner doesn’t possess. To keep the relationship alive we must keep in mind that we should focus on one person only but not to the point wherein you became so attached and you don’t want your partner to interact or be friends to anyone, but to focus by means of keeping your eyes straight with him/her, sharing both dreams and keeping it alive as long as you can, dream with your partner, pray with your partner and share your thoughts with each other. These are just advices and some points that I think everyone should know. I know this is very basic but sometimes or most of the time we always forget the basics. Anyhow, let me share you another line from the book ”Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,” Don’t try to fix or change your partner.” A simple thought that everyone should understand and try to think of. You should not try to fix him/her because you’ve loved him/her in that way. Learn to accept the fact that possessing some of the best characteristics that a relationship should have is more than enough than changing your partner the way you wanted him/her to be.